Labor, Alone ??

[sunshineshowers91]

Has anyone had to or chose to do it?

My 2nd baby is due in 8 weeks and unfortunately my partner and I have had to split..

(He has turnt into a lying, drug using, let down who has been violent and abusive towards me in front of our son)

We already have a son who will be 13 months when my daughter arrives. For the sake of the babies I cannot stay in the relationship, it has been nothing but misery recently.

My mum will have my son when I am in labor.
Ex was supposed to be there at birth but I cannot let that be as he will only make it a nightmare for me. I don't even want him to know when labor starts..

My sister lives abroad and there's no one else I would be ok with having there.

So I am wondering has anyone ever done this alone? How was it? What should I know? Any advice much appreciated. (feeling so low, worried etc)

Thanks x

[sunshineshowers91]

And feeling so alone not sure what I should do x

[terrylene]

Talk to your midwife. If they are aware you will be on your own, you and they can be prepared and pop in to check on you more often. If you want someone with you all the time, there may be students around who would be willing.

Otherwise, take what you need to be comfortable.

[ems137]

I'm probably going to have to labour alone. My dad is taking my older kids away and his wife is on holiday abroad for a week leaving DH with our toddler. We don't have any other childcare choices.

My due date is 1st July. Last baby was 3 days late. They are all away 29th June for a week.

If you can't do anything about it then just prepare yourself in your own mind that you will be alone x

[Heirhelp]

I know there was a thread about lone birthing some where recently, maybe childbirth pages but definitely request that you have a student midwife as they will stay with the whole time. You can put it on your birth plan but when you ring up to go in to say you are in your way mention it then as well.

[BettyBaggins]

Is there anyone else you would trust to have your DS? A kindly neighbour or friend? There was a thread recently that talked of a similar situation and they were looking into babysitting organisations.

Sorry to hear you are facing this but also remember how brave you have been to get away from abusive situation.