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diddlysquat0 Tue 21-Mar-17 17:57:05

I wish I had a bigger family. Just me and DD. We are happy mostly but sometimes life feels so small. It's always that much harder work finding someone friends to do things with at the weekend. I've always felt I am the sort of person who is at their best in a family unit. It's hard not to be envious when I see others with what I want and seeing so many whose homes are full of company and support. How to get your head round your life being nothing like how you wanted it family wise?

Foslady Tue 21-Mar-17 19:35:27

I does hurt, you're right. But I do my best to make it extra special - do things easier with just the two, unexpected things off the cuff that are just 'grab n go' - get up and just announce a plan - swimming, both of us put together a favourite food picnic, and if there's cash a cinema trip or go crafting at the centre (or just craft together at home). If there's only the two of us I can pig housework on hold and have us time.

It's not the same, just a different kind of special (and some of her friends do get a bit wishful of us amazingly!)

diddlysquat0 Tue 21-Mar-17 21:08:12

Thanks Foslady, it's good to hear from people in a similar situation. Some days it doesn't bother me so much but DD been quite hard work recently and I've been thinking how nice it must be for her to have a Dad or sibling to bounce off when I am tired and grumpy or she is doing my head in!

diddlysquat0 Tue 21-Mar-17 21:08:43

would be, not must be.

DoughNut12345 Tue 21-Mar-17 21:13:31

What area are you in and how old is your DD? I'm a single parent too, but my kids are teenagers. It gets a bit boring at weekends , so would be happy to meet up and chat. Xx

user1487854472 Wed 22-Mar-17 06:00:27

I'm the the same position, just me and my dd (9 months). I'm the only friend/family member who is a single parent and it is hard and lonely. I'm in Ipswich and would love to meet up with other single parents xx

diddlysquat0 Wed 22-Mar-17 09:30:05

I'm in London. Love to meet up! Don't seem to have many friends in the same situation and realising friends in 2/4 families just can't understand the relentlessness of being responsible for everything and always ploughing through when sick. User148 , Hope you've got yourself some treats in for your first Mother's Day. I've got very good at marking occasions by treating myself!

80sbabyz Wed 22-Mar-17 14:42:41

Hi diddly I'm the same as you. Its just myself and DD 12, how old is your DD? It is a struggle at times to find others to do things with. I know my sister is sick of us always asking for her LO to come out with us and lately keeps saying "she's busy" even though my niece cries to go out with us. I'm in London too, maybe we could meet up with the girlssmile. I too really wish i had at least one more child

NooNooMummy Mon 27-Mar-17 21:26:04

I'm in the same boat. Just me and my DD 3 year old 7 days a week. Weekdays aren't too bad as she's busy at nursery or there are other mums out and about with their kids but I find weekends can be hard cos it's kids with families everywhere! We're experts now at filling our weekends with activities! In London too - we should start a weekend club for single mums!

diddlysquat0 Wed 29-Mar-17 21:56:49

we should! I've seen a few about but nothing ever seems to materialise. Perhaps we really should form our own for Sunday park days and school holiday/ bank holiday meets up when the world seems full of 2.4. children families and we are desperate for some adult conversation!

NooNooMummy Thu 30-Mar-17 20:43:09

Count me in!!!

Disappointednomore Fri 31-Mar-17 05:01:36

Me too - London, one DD7

NooNooMummy Sun 02-Apr-17 11:05:00

I'm going to direct message you guys (when I get a minute!). Feel free to DM me! (I have DD age 3 and we're south of the river but hang out in central London too). We're away for the Easter bank holiday weekend but available most other weekends.smile

diddlysquat0 Sun 02-Apr-17 20:52:47

please do! I keep meaning to do the same but can't figure out how to message more than one at once and keep forgetting names and then get sidetracked. I'd love to meet up! In fact logged on with Thursday next week as a potential date in mind.

NooNooMummy Sun 02-Apr-17 22:48:45

Thursdays not good for me- my little one is in nursery then. But we're free on the 13th 😀

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