Backstory: Two DC aged 8 & 10. Ds (10) & dd (8). Xh & I been separated since 2010 (when dd was 18m). No formal court order in place, we've always tried to keep things amicable & in the grand scheme of things he's kind of an okay dad. He lives the other side of London, so contact is limited to every other weekend, they go to his (parents) house. He also pays the mortgage on our house as his maintenance.
So this year, he's been asking me to swap weekends (which he knows I can't do because of work commitments), so I end up just having them for "his" weekend. I don't mind, per se, I'd rather have them home than stuck on the M25 for hours on end, but the kids were disappointed to start with.
Well, anyway, he's just messaged me to say he "can't" have them this weekend, I've told them & ds said "That's fine, I don't wanna go anymore anyway."
Don't really know what to say to this. I always knew there'd come a day when they'd rather stay home/go out with their friends, than go to their dad's...I just didn't think it would be so soon.
Should I have been more forceful & told xh he has to have the kids? I don't want them to feel like they're a burden on their dad iyswim.
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Despairbunny · 20/03/2017 16:28
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