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visitation rights? advice!(2 Posts)
My 4 month old baby's father and I have split after a 16 month relationship, I ended the relationship due to his serious alcohol problem and the effects it was having on our relationship and our baby. Since our break up he has been arrested 3 times. Once for smashing a window in my house and breaking in! I had to get a restraining order against him which he has since broke hence being arrested again. He has never hurt our son however I feel until he gets help he shouldn't have our son at all. Maybe this is harsh but I feel it's in my baby's best interests. He never helped me when we were together and since we have broke up he has been nohing but nasty and horrible to me and abot me on Facebook ill point out he's 10 years older than me at 32! He also is refusing to pay child maintanance and has gone as far as quitting his job and going on benefits in order to get out of paying 😣 he is going to fight me every step of the way for visitation to our son. How muh of a chance do I have of him getting no visitation rights? My second option is a contact centre where he will be supervised but to be honest that's definitly my second choice!
I'm in northern Ireland and would appreciate any help on this matter. Thankyou!
Hi. Sounds really tough for you right now I hope you find a way through it all soon.
Hand on heart I would say try a contact centre with supervision. He doesn't sound like a nice guy, but he's not going to go away quietly and you need to do everything you can to find a safe and appropriate form of contact. I don't think a court would rule out any visitation rights at all...they would want to see how he coped with supervised contact first. If he's turning up drunk and being violent you will have your evidence and you can always say you tried.
4 months is very little still. I do feel your anxiety and genuine worry, of course every bone in your body wants to protect your little one. That's why I would try for supervised contact in a contact centre and see what he does. If he turns up drunk or aggressive you have independent witnesses and more evidence to take to court later. Sadly got to play the long game sometimes. Good luck.
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