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JLbaby · 09/02/2017 10:30

I am in the process of separating from H and we are currently trying to sort out the arrangements with regards to the children.

He has proposed 50/50 – however, what constitutes 50/50, is it literally 3 nights at one house and 4 nights at the other? Does this actually work in practice?

I understand that if you have a 50/50 agreement, no CMS is paid, is that correct?

I was thinking they could spend 1 or 2 nights during the week at his and then every other weekend. Presumably if this were the case I would get CMS? Is that the case even if they spend 2 nights a week at his, or is it just 1 night during the week they’d have to spend with him for me to qualify for CMS?

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user322322323 · 09/02/2017 11:28

Is this about money? the maintenance you will be entitled to depending upon how often the baby's Dad spends with him overnight? will you will reduce the amount of time with their Dad to make sure you get money?

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JLbaby · 09/02/2017 11:48

No, I'm happy for him to see them whenever he likes. However, obviously it costs money to live and I'm in the process of trying to work out my finances and whether I can actually afford to live where I currently do, or whether I'd have to move area to somewhere cheaper.

I wanted to know how 50/50 actually works as I'm not sure it would actually work in practice and personally think it's better if they spend 1/2 nights a night at his and every other weekend there. I am just trying to get opinions on what works for other people and how it works in practice.

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3xcookedchips · 09/02/2017 12:05

How about they have 1/2 nights at yours and every other weekend at yours - place the financial responsibility on your exH - that way you can minimise any costs you may incur.

50/50 works when both parents make it work

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JLbaby · 09/02/2017 12:10

3xcookedchips - Because realistically for our situation that wouldn't work. I work part time and he works full time, so I'm around a lot more for school drop-offs and pick ups etc.

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RacoonBandit · 09/02/2017 12:13

Just use the CMS calculator. Put in the info for 3/4 nights a week and see what it brings up.