New to lone parenting and trying to agree contact for 14 month old. Dad has hardly ever had her on his own and never for longer than an hour. History of verbal abuse and flying off the handle verbally (and threw bucket of water over me while we were in bed) at me, but is ok with baby in general. Trying to agree contact without going to court ideally but not sure if I'm doing the right thing! I've said he needs to build my trust up by looking after her at mine while I nip our and build it up over next few months. He wants to take her to his mother's next weekend!! I'll be honest I don't like them- they spoilt my lg's christening, are irresponsible (thought it was ok to let a 9mth Staffordshire bull terrier lick lg's face! - his mother was holding her and did nothing to stop it so I jumped in!), think it's acceptable to smoke and then put smokey fingers near/in her mouth (again I've stopped it!). Her dad says he won't let her to harm, I'm so worried at least before we split I could protect her! Lg hates the car and has never been alone in car with him.
Thanks if you've read this far! I just don't know what to do, I'm so worried. Part of me thinks she'll be ok for an hour, but I won't be there to make sure! I know i sound like control freak but I just want my lg to be happy and safe! Wwyd? Her dad is so manipulative he gets mad when he doesn't get his way, I just don't feel strong enough for this!
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peachy2410 · 15/01/2017 22:54
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