Daughters Dad not sticking to arrangements me and him have made

[user1484129002]

Hi All

My Daughter is 3 years old. Me & her dad split when she was 4 months old.

Her dad has never been consistent throughout the 3 years of her life, he disappears for weeks going in to months at a time with no contact/not seeing her this went on for 2 and a half years. She didn't know who he was because he wasn't consistent with her and she would only feel comfortable seeing him if I was there (which had to stop because he would try to argue with me/get jealous about me moving on with my life).

Recently just before her Birthday he started wanting to see her/take interest in her life. I agreed he could start seeing her for an hour each Sunday with me and my mum present until she was comfortable with him and then he could see her by himself each Sunday. We done this for 3 Sundays (he stuck to the plan) and then by the 4th Sunday she was ready to go by herself. He has had her for 4 Sundays in a row then last Sunday he was meant to pick her up and he did not turn up. 4 days later I still have not heard from him. I just feel this is the start of it all over again but now my Daughter understands more, she was upset on Sunday asking why she was not going to see her dad.

I feel like I can not let him get away with doing this to her, should I seek legal advice? is there much they could do?

Thanks in advance! :)

[Starlight2345]

I had this with ex. It reached the point when my DS was 3 that he said lets go mummy when we were waiting to go to Christmas party. His Dad was late.. At this point I decided something needed to change.. E ended up not seeing Ds for a while. I spoke to Solicitor who advised to not say anything the longer the no contact the better but I also logged all the reasons he cancelled and reason why.

I don't honestly think courts care however I do believe inconsistent contact. Dropping in and out of kids lives is damaging. My DS is now 9 and not seen his dad since he was 3. It took a while to deal with it but I do believe he is in a better place because he no longer see's his dad at all.