I have recently gone back to work. DS is 11, year 7 but a young 11 year old. I am a lone parent, he is an only child.
After working hard on a degree and looking for jobs for over a year, I have managed to land myself my dream job.
I'm just not sure DS is ready for this. I am training at the moment, but eventually I will be starting earlier which means I need to leave DS to get ready on his own in the mornings. He has been trying so hard to be supportive and had assured me he was fine for me to leave early this morning. I had to return home 20 mins after I'd started my journey as DS was feeling "sick and shaky." DS does get quite anxious and it triggers psychosomatic symptoms. He has not come down with anything so I know this was the case. He also admitted he thought he could hear 'noises' the cats in the bathroom after I'd left.
Sometimes I will have the opportunity to work afternoons from home. Other times I won't be home until 5:30pm - 6:30pm. DS is home by 3:10pm so I also worry about him being at home alone for too long. Most of the time he is fine on his own but every now and again he gets freaked out by something or another it's always the cats. I'm sure he'd prefer me to be home.
This actual job itself is ideal and very hard to come by. It's also term time. But DS is my priority and I don't want him to feel I'm not there for him. My mum comes once a week at least. If I give this job up...then what? I've spent a year looking for work and jobs that fit around children are like gold dust. I was considering being a TA as earlier finish but even that would require an early start.
I'm exhausted after my first week at work, I have PMT, I am feeling immensely guilty re DS and I just don't know what to do for the best.
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cakedup · 10/01/2017 18:50
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