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i feel so isolated:((!!!(4 Posts)
I was in a relationship for 5 years that really damaged my emotional health we have a little girl who is 14 months and i have been on my own since day one infact he hasnt even met her yet things got to much and i left him when i was 38 weeks pregnant and have not heard from him since i struggle from anxiety and depression and reasently its been so bad i havent been able to leave the house i dont get any support or help with the because my mother is really ill and cannot help and i litterly dont have any friends because i pushed them all away i dont no what to do i feel so bad for my little one who is suffering aswell because of this (
Do try and reach out to your local Gingerbread group for friendship and support, SureStart childrens centre playgroups are a godsend too. Both free.
If you have a bit of money it makes sense to join the NCT for child friendly activity and friendship!
Have you had a look at the Single Parents Support group on Facebook?x
Sounds really tough for you
Firstly, I hope you have been to the gp regarding the depression. You don't have to feel like everyday. The gp will be able to help you to access medication that can help your anxiety and also counselling maybe.
Is your daughter under the health visiting team? Contact them and tell them you're alone and are looking for support to get into some groups.
Churches, community centres and libraries are a good place to start looking for groups to go along to. I appreciate that the anxiety may have you worrying about going to them but honestly, be brave and try it out. They are good places to meet other parents.
Also baby swimming, yoga. Have a look around or ask the health visitor for recommendations.
Could your dd attend nursery? Locally, we have a nurture nursery that takes little ones from 18months either for a morning or afternoon session. It's not terribly expensive, but even if there are costs you can't afford, you could get help with them.
I know exactly how you're feeling and what you're going through. If you've not been to the doctors yet, please do so soon. Perhaps get a home visit if it feels too much.
My daughter is 4, there's a little park next to our home and when my depression and anxiety is bad, I can't even take her to the park. Its heartbreaking when she asks and I say I can't do it and it does make you feel like they're missing out.
I don't know what to say that doesn't echo the previous replies, but its brave that you have spoken out and acknowledge that you're not feeling good. What ever you do, please don't think you're a bad mum (that's the first thing I think of when I'm not right), just the fact you're worried that its affecting your child means you care.
Please contact a gp as soon as you can, they can give you medication or put you in touch with counselling, therapy etc. Also, contact the health visitor if you can, they'll know of any groups in your area so you don't feel so isolated.
Please PM me if you need to talk x
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