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Single parent's how hard is it?

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Mummyofmonsters Fri 23-Dec-16 08:20:21

This might seem so strange to post but due to lifestyle etc I don't think we'd survive financially without my OH. He pays the rent and all bills and I stay home with the kids. A lot has happened between us and I'm so unhappy in our marriage. I've tried to forgive his cheating and lies and want to move on but I can't. When we're good were amazing but when we're bad were awful. I have health problems that effect my mobility at times and I'm petrified that leaving our relationship im going to struggle as sometimes I can barely walk I don't have much support around me other than him. I need to know the brutal truth. I love this man and some days I can see us working through it and lIving happily ever after and other days like today I see no way forward. This isn't a materialistic post I know it may come across as I don't want to lose our home etc but I want to cause as little disruption to the kids as possible if I do decide to find my worth.

user1482343889 Fri 23-Dec-16 11:08:18

Most people dont plans to be single parents but end up bieng becase of putting the childs interest first. Using this as a basis they thrive and more importantly their kids do to. Think what is in the best interest of the child and how the bad times affect them. They might find it hard in the beginning adjusting but if you are doing the best for them they will grow into confident responsible adults.

HappyHedgehog247 Fri 23-Dec-16 16:56:49

It might mean bigger changes and a different lifestyle than you've ever imagined. It's so hard to answer for someone else. I don't regret leaving, I'm so much happier and so is DC but it is hard at times and I wouldn't have left if I had felt there was a chance it could work.

HappyHedgehog247 Fri 23-Dec-16 16:58:31

Also when you say 'other days like today', I know this can be a terrible time of year when things aren't smooth domestically. May be worth trying Counselling since you say you love him? It is absolutely do-able though. X

grounddown Fri 23-Dec-16 17:02:45

It's easier than being in an awful relationship, for both you and your DC.
Since i left him, me and the DC live in a shitty rented house and scrape by but we don't walk on eggshells anymore.

Foslady Fri 23-Dec-16 20:22:05

It's worth the crap bits to have peace of mind

BlackeyedSusan Sat 24-Dec-16 01:56:13

you have to work through this for yourself. weigh up the pros and cons. what can you afford where. what about maintenance? benefits? could you work at all?

depends on whether he is going to be an arse or support his kid. (mine does financially thank God and also get help from mum)

what are you willing to live without to live without him.

takes time to work throuhg. I thought I could not do it alone but it turns out I can. with maintenance.

I have two children, one with a disability and one with other additional needs which may also include a disability. I do not go out ot work though due to this.

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