I've offered ex half holidays (shared collection/drop off) and one weekend a month contact (me to collect and drop) Distance is 200miles there and back.
He won't agree to it and wants mediation week after next. My daughters birthday is due soon and of course xmas.
Also he keeps saying he can't afford maintenance. I told him not to worry and we set it up once hes back to work. Yet he said he wants to pay 40 a month even states he'll get his wife and mum to pay for it if its set in stone. Strange as when he was working I'd get 107 a month. And whats even more odder is even though i said not to worry about the payments right now. He said I'm bullying him.
Can i just send the dates to his solicitor and state thats what they will be til shes old enough to decide herself. As he said we can do it the easy way or the hard way. Which i think he means court. But I've not done anything apart from offer contact, tell him not to worry about maintenance right now... But refuse mediation. Don't see how that counts as bullying him.
He won't say. He just said he's partially agreed to contact. But I've given him half of school holidays and the once a month, and even doing most of the travelling. Surely he'd be wrong to disagree to it at all.
Does he want every other weekend? Given the distance, he'd probably struggle to get much more than that.
Separate out the CMS issue. Courts don't get involved in that anymore unless income is very high.
You don't get to just send a letter and that be the end of it, no. You don't have to agree to mediation but if he takes it to court, they will probably want to know why you wouldn't agree. Also unless you represent yourself, it will be much more expensive that £500 and you may not get what you want out of it.