I don't usually post on this board, but I'm fed up!
I moved town with our young daughter 12 years ago. I needed to move for many reasons, financially and family support.
However I must have felt guilty as I did everything I could to keep up our daughters relationship with her father. I don't drive but I took our daughter regularly on the train, a round trip of 6 hours twice in a weekend. I struggled with this, had little social life and gave up working full-time to be around more for our daughter.
I did this for years. I told EX that I didn't think it was reasonable to do ALL the trips, and rarely, he would come to mine and I'd give him the house for the weekend. I reduced the amount in the last couple of years, because I just couldn't keep them up and our daughter didn't like it.
Through all this time I only ever heard complaints from EX, that I was awful for moving, that it was never enough. He'd constantly ask our daughter when the next visit was (even though it was given in advance) and then say it was too long until he next saw her. When once I said to our daughter that her Dad was welcome to come to visit her anytime, Ex went mad at me, saying how could I tell her something that was impossible as he had no money.
This year has been worse. I thought it would get better as our daughter is old enough to go herself. Yet he cancelled one with less than a days notice, then said he'd like to come to see her instead, then didn't, then blamed me for not giving him enough over the summer. She was with him for two different times totally 3 weeks.
He then missed a maintenance payment last month with absolutely no explanation. I don't contact him anymore as all he does it complain and get at me and honestly it just gets me down. He takes no interest in what I do to parent her, e.g. Problems at school etc, so I feel totally on my own parent wise.
I'm so sick of it I am going to stop paying for any of the visits anymore. He can plan, book and pay for them, as long as he gives me and daughter a couple of weeks notice. AIBU?
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EX expects me to pay for visits and missed maintenance?
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PinaColada1 · 30/10/2016 13:28
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