Hi All,
Just need to vent!
I have been separated from DS dad since he was 4 now 12. Got on pretty well until about 3/4 yrs ago - met now wife, messed son about etc usual story...oh and payments stopped!!
Have been transferred to CMS and he still hasnt paid (£6000 arrears) and finally going through deduction from wages so due to see payments soon. Recent CMS review shows he earns over £40,000 and will have to pay quite a hefty sum plus arrears.
Anyway, my upset is now ex has asked son if he wants to stay a week at theirs and then a week at mine. DS has mentioned that his dad will get him an xbox 1 (currently has xbox 360 at his dads), new bed, bigger tv in his room etc
I have said to DS he is old enough to make his own decisions and he can do this if he wants. I said it will be strange initially.
Inside it is killing me, I feel sick!
What is totally pissing me off is that I think it is all down to money and getting his CMS reduced so he only pays his arrears!!! It is totally out of the blue, why didnt he ask to have his son alternate weeks years ago???
I am 99.9% sure it is due to payments. I could be doing my ex a mis-justice but i doubt it!! He has told DS that it will make holidays easier!! I have never stopped him going away with his dad, and I have only got angry when it was short notice or his dad has booked something on my weekend off where I had to cancel so I could look after DS.
We dont speak at all - but I am having to control myself not to send him a round of fcuks via txt!!
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Jogrighton · 02/10/2016 22:42
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