So ....I'm single after ending a 25 year relationship 3 years ago .
Feels like a permanent race with too many balls in the air sometimes.
Sometimes I drop one and have a meltdown.
Mostly I keep going and pat myself on the back at what a great job we as a family are all doing .
Exdh is still sulking and an absent father .
I have 4 DC , 23 ( independant ), 20 ( at uni ), 13 and 6 .
I work as a professional in a job which I have to commit to 100% when I'm at work or I'd lose my job and quite possibly someone's life literally .
I'd never taken care of a car before but it's clean and serviced and still going and faithful!
I've somehow managed to keep the house together and even made several improvements !
The DC are mostly fed healthy...ish meals .
I'm not in debt .
We are clean ! Well mostly .
We have food in the fridge, clothes in the airing cupboard and occasionally I manage the homework and reading .
We've done it and I look at them and think , well they really are happy , well adjusted , have great friends are are doing well at school.
People compliment me on them a lot and even though we've cried a lot together we've laughed more and made some fabulous memories .
My son and I have learnt how to do some hilarious things together ( like the time I opened the new lawn mower and a bag of about 100 screws fell out ! So I knocked back a glass of wine and shouted at him that if he could build that bloody Lego ship in THERE he could figure this mower out ! ) and he did bless him .
Anyway ..... Best tips, funny inspirational stories and let's do this.
I have absolutely no family whatsoever to speak of so anything that helps me or others is great .
Here's mine to start of. But I'm sure there's better :
- freeze and label lots ! Whenever I make stews, soups ect I double it, bag it, label it and freeze it . Great for those week nights getting in at 6.30 with 1hr to feed wash homework and bed.
- make sandwiches on a Sunday night and freeze for the whole week . Cheese sandwiches freeze fine !
- make enormous tray of flapjack with value butter ...cheap to make and cut into portions, wrap in foil and freeze . Great for snacks at school and lasts ages .
- realise it's ok to eat junk when necessary if an early night is more important !
- I make sure we get out walking most Sunday's . It's free , good for all of us .
- Learn to say no . No explanation required .
- learn to say yes please Real friends mean it .
- Sleep .... I get into bed at midnight and up at 6 all week every week . I'm shattered and often feel a mess. So going to bed early when pos with the kids after a chippy tea and a glass if wine sometimes is needed !
- Have lots of school uniform and everything out the night before .
- Write lists .I found everything overwhelming to start with so have learnt to just do one thing at a time and eventually you get the result , or something like it !