For the last 3 years I've been a lone parent (age 44) to 2DCs (age 3 and 8) and working full time. It's been hard work but I've always enjoyed working and still am very ambitious.
But the reality is my ambition is pointless because I don't feel I can go any further work-wise. Already I spend a lot of evenings and weekends catching up on work and couldn't cope with a greater workload or responsibility or time commitment or evenings away, despite the fact that I'd love a more senior role. And anyway....I have no time for networking, little opportunities for professional development - my one course in London was a nightmare to even coordinate as getting into London on time and back (I'm in the home counties) was almost impossible. A job in London would be impossible too.
Just recently I had to turn down a role because of the location - I literally couldn't work out drop offs/pickups in the morning/evening.... what a depressing reason to turn down an opportunity!
But that's the reality. And the fact is that I currently run such a carefully coordinated ship, the thought of leaving my role and messing with that balance is scary - so I feel stuck in my current role.
It's hard for me to accept that my career really is going to have to take such a backseat over the next 10 years and possibly forever. I don't want to sound ungrateful - I love my children and they are my priority but find it hard that I've having to shelve my career dreams.
Have others had a similar experience and how they dealt with it or learned to accept it?
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windygallows · 17/07/2016 19:41
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