Judgemental health vistor

[Beautifulbella]

So I may be over-sensitive I'm not completely sure. But I can't help but feel judge by my local health vistor.
Dd was discharged ten days free birth on her first hv appointment, since then I have moved so naturally a hv came out to introduce herself.
My dd is a total klutz and is either tripping or falling over anything (I have baby proofed the house). She's 12 months but had been at a&e 4 times because she has banned her head. But please bare in my once was with a toy, once whilst learning to crawl and twice since learning to walk. Each time I have taken her to a&e as I'm abit of a panicker and just wanted the professionals to make sure was ok. So yesterday dd was in a playpen with her cousin who is two weeks younger than herself, dd fell onto cousin whilst playing with a toy. Her two bottom teeth her attached her gum. I called the doctors immediately as she was bleeding not so much, the doctor advised a trip to a&e.
Thankfully dd is fine and was just a little scratch, we were discharged.
Today I get a voicemail from the hv saying they have put me on a monthly family contact thing. Didn't really explain much and had told me to come to the clinic with dd and that I will also be having a home visit.
I'm at a loss for words, I can't help but thinks they think I have purposely allowed my child to get hurt or I don't pay enough attention to stop her getting hurt. I'm now at the point were if dd fell again I would be nervous to take her to a&e as if fear what the hv are going to say.
I love my dd so much, and can't help but feel judge. Esp as she said "oh your a single parent, that must be hard" on the phone. YES, it's hard, but does that mean I can't take care of my dd, of course not.

Sorry just really felt the need to rant, wish me luck for my clinic appointment.

[Gizlotsmum]

Good luck. I would assume it's more of a formality... They need to be seen to be doing something, especially with all the cases they miss...

[ElsaAintAsColdAsMe]

Trips to A&E every 3 months on average will make people sit up and take notice.

Just explain to your hv that you are a worrier and probably over react.

She will soon see you are coping and everything is fine.

[Beautifulbella]

I completely agree as to why it may make them a bit concerned, but I attend every child social class with them weekly and before any of the a&e trips. I expressed my worry to them about me over panicking, they explained to me that it was a good sign I worry so much and that they know I was doing great. But it's like a sudden light switch and I can't help but feel like I'm being cornered. I suppose it doesn't help that my local a&e is two roads behind me.

[starry0ne]

It may be simply they feel you need extra support due to anxiety..

As LP you don't have the partner to contact ask advice.

Take the support hey are offering.

[Wolfiefan]

It's probably an automatic thing. Go to A&E a certain number of times and it triggers this. They may think you are anxious and need support.
Being a single parent is hard though surely? Perhaps she was just trying to acknowledge that and how well you are doing?

[Myusernameismyusername]

It is automatic, they are obliged to follow up accident reports and especially hospital visits

I would advise making use of your local pharmacy, minor injuries unit, GP, GP nurse or 111 for advice in future - going to A&E for minor injuries does seem extreme. I think it's about balance really and they are all there to help you

[Pixiedustandluck]

Of course single parenting can be hard but so can parenting with both parents involved. I have such an amazin support system with family living within the same road. So I don't see why it's irrelevant. And I really don't see why I should be "looked" at differently because I'm a single parent, personally that has nothing to do with my parenting.

And myusername ... Before I've gone to a&e each time I have contacted either my go or 101. As my gp is easier 20min drive and the closest one to me, they tend to say a&e.

I completely agree about me being anxious, the hv said that I'm not unhealthy anxious I'm just the perfect amount, and when I see them in the clinic yesterday they never mentioned a single thing so I thought it was best I did.

I told them how they was making me feel and how if my child hurt herself and I didn't take her go or hosp I would be judged for that but because I do I'm judged for that, feel like I can't win.

[tootiredforthissh1t]

It's standard practice. Take any support on offer.