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user1464896961 Thu 02-Jun-16 21:20:30

My DS is 7 weeks old and up until now all contact with his dad's family have been with me there but now they want him alone.
I don't know the family at all, ive tried to reach out to them so it is easier for me to trust them with DS but they ignore all my attempts and have only been to see him a handful of time.
My relationship with his dad isn't great. It was a casual thing for a few weeks then I found out I was expecting. Since then he made zero effort. He only sees DS once or twice a week for a few hours and DS is usually asleep so they haven't built up a bond.
There is no relationship there with DS and fathers family.
Now ive said I don't want DS there without me until I know them and can trust them they have become difficult and unreasonable. But I can't hand my baby over to strangers.
Advice is needed on how to handle things...
Sorry for the long thread!

IdaShaggim Sat 04-Jun-16 08:56:46

7 weeks?! Hell would freeze over. Meet them at a cafe, sit at separate tables, they can have DS at their table for an hour?! Or, just point blank refuse. He's tiny... You and he both need to be together.

AbernathysFringe Sun 05-Jun-16 16:36:30

Totally unreasonable. Don't bow to their pressure. It's not in the baby's best interests, only in THEIR best interests.
Try to get the Dad over more often and teach him baby's routines, so that when time does come for him to be with baby without supervision you won't feel so worried.

OurBlanche Sun 05-Jun-16 16:47:53

No! Just that. No!

They have got to be kidding, 7 weeks! No!

When he and his dad have a proper, independent relationship, dad can take him to visit his family. But now? No!

You don't know them, they don't know you. Your son is 7 weeks old! No! Not now! no!

Tell the dad to explain to his family that his son is not a toy they can ask 'for a go on' and that they really should think more clearly. Right now? No!

starry0ne Sun 05-Jun-16 21:53:15

To firstly a no regardless of answers to these questions.

Do you mean dad and family or just dad.

Be very careful here. If contact is established with grandparents they can go to court of you stop it.

Equally I would not let a 7 week out baby out of my sight regardless. I would distance myself from family and let dad build a bond if he is going to.

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