I'm a 44 year old single mum with 8yo dd. Her dad left us 7 years ago and visits her occasionally (his choice) but otherwise not involved.
I've had 2 relationships since he left, but neither worked out. The most recent one I thought was absolutely right ... but after 5 months he decided he no longer agreed. It has hit me very hard to fail yet again - I'm a normal, nice person and yet I can't seem to sustain a relationship. I'm doing a lot of soul searching and self help reading to try and improve myself
I am happy with my own company, but so miss having someone to share things with and it gets so lonely.
I have very little childcare or family help so getting out to join clubs or date is very hard. All the other school mums I know are married/with partners. All of which means online dating seems to be my best/only option.
My dd would dearly love to be part of a 'proper' family with a mum and a dad ( father figure) in her life. She has been very fond of the 2 guys I dated, although has taken the splits extremely well and takes it all in her stride. However, I am very aware that I don't want her to grow up thinking everyone leaves.
I have seen on another thread about online dating and not introducing new partners to children for maybe the first 6 months, and I would love to hear about how you make this work in real life? I would barely be able to see someone if I tried this, maybe once a week if really lucky, can you start a relationship like this? Do guys understand this? Is it best if they have young children too? How do you bring this up when first chatting / meeting?
Also, any tips/advice on dating profiles, what to look for, success stories etc would be so lovely to hear. I don't want to give up hope of ever being able to settle down with someone but it is getting harder to believe it will ever happen for me
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Imightgocrazy · 02/05/2016 15:41
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