I know technically it's "none of my business" but I feel so upset about this. She'll probably be my daughter's step mum in another couple months at this rate.. :(
He met her a month ago & indirectly rubbed it in my face when he turned up to pick up our DD with blatant love bites all over his neck like a teenager (he's 42..) the day before we were having an Easter family lunch and Easter egg hunt with his Mum & his family who I am all still close to. He's known her for a month and he's just told me he will be away Tuesday til Thursday for his birthday for a city break away with this woman.
Apart from the personal side of me just feeling hurt by the fact he's moving on pretty fast & drastically with the first woman he's met since we split up 9 months ago.. He has a history of manic behaviour and the episodes usually come on at this time of year.. I am worried this is a sign of it. And he's supposed to be taking DD (nearly 2) away at the weekend camping with his friends for the first time. I have let her go because he seems to have been mostly stable and responsible the last few months and has stopped smoking weed... But now he's going to Amsterdam with this random woman who he hardly knows. Just seems pretty extreme & sudden to me and I'm shocked.
I asked him if she was also going camping and he said "I would have told you if she was" .... ???? As if that was even a reasonable idea?? I was joking !
I'm just terrified what this means about his mood / mental state & also what kind of woman she is & when he will be exposing her our daughter. :( and yeah I also feel hurt. The thought of him playing happy families with my daughter and some random woman I don't know is so painful. And this just seems really sudden considering a few months ago he was saying he does not want a relationship with anyone anytime soon and that is so far in the future & he promised to work on himself for our daughters sake (eg. Therapy and anger management course which he hasn't done) ... He was a bit emotionally abusive and eventually physically abusive toward the end of our relationship during a manic phase in the summer. I'm just so shaken by the idea that he may be going a bit off balance as well.
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NancyPiecrust · 29/04/2016 07:37
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