Hi i know its prob unusal for a man to post hre but i would like a womans opinion. Me and my ex split nearly a year ago. Awhile ago we had a reasonable arrangement where our boy was with me tue night wed night then for tea on a thur then alternated 24 hours over night at weekends altho tues was not what she feels she agreed to but was easy for her with work so was getting maintance like i only had 2 overnights which i didnt really care about because i got to have him. After a rather brutal argument on both sides (i wont claim to be inocent in that) she said i had been a dick and took tue from me as punishment.
I pay over what csa say i should and still buy clothes toy ect. She is now demanding i pay half nursery fee for the 2 days a week he goes ( although she recives a wage child maintance from me and all other benifits totalling nearly 2000 while im forced to live off under 1000) and has told me if i dont pay it i will go down to 1 night at the weekend and that is it untill courts tell her other wise.
I dont want to go to court as feel it is a stress emotianally and money wise for everyone involved me her and our child but its looking as if thats how it will have to be done. I am a good father who loves his son to bit and he loves me most times when he has to go back he asks if he can just stay with me which breaks my heart but i know they both love each other too and no matter how much i personally dont get on with the ex i could never come between them having a good full relationship. All i want is the same chance
Bit of a novel there but my questions are
Am i being unreasonable ?
What are my chances of getting split custody through the courts ?
How should i handle my ex on this point ?
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NRDAD · 01/01/2016 21:18
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