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Number 2 Thread When You Are Fed Up With The Solitary Burden Of Single Parentdom

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Solo · 01/01/2016 15:12

Happy New Year and Happy New Thread to all the single parents looking for a place to rant, rave, moan, share the highs and the lows and chat with people that know! It is the second thread and probably a slow one if the first is anything to go by, but it's here when we need it.

LINK TO THE FIRST THREAD

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BlackeyedShepherdsbringsheep · 01/01/2016 23:09

just what I am looking for. I think I popped into the old thread a couple of times.

Solo · 02/01/2016 01:57

Hello and welcome :) I have a rubbish memory, so c an't remember if I've seen your nn before or not.

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Elfieselfie · 02/01/2016 14:58

Happy New Year all Smile

megletthesecond · 02/01/2016 15:06

Hi all. Hope the year has started ok.

We're about to go town to spend xmas vouchers. It will involve whinging.

Solo · 02/01/2016 16:07

Happy New Year!!

I haven't been dressed this year yet! Let alone gone shopping! Need to get myself into gear and do something...back to work on Monday :(

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PrizeyPrize · 02/01/2016 18:06

Happy new year everyone! Still at DPs heading home tomorrow. Hope you've all had a great time, I have but if I'm honest now looking forward to bit of normality with no tinsel or hangovers!

IsabellaofFrance · 02/01/2016 21:51

Evening all,

do you ever get used to the difference? To your own company? I am so bored because I cant focus and just feel so odd right now.

Back to work on Monday too :(

megletthesecond · 02/01/2016 22:06

isabella I'm ok with my own company when the dc's behave and go to bed nicely. It allows me some thinking and reading time, it feels ok then. But when they're running riot til late then I feel more isolated and want to run away. I've been a lp for 7yrs though so I might be used to it or simply resigned to it.

changeoflife · 03/01/2016 08:11

Happy New Year! I started to post just before Xmas but then things got crazy busy and I didn't manage to get on here until now. Back to work tomorrow. Not sure if I'm pleased because we get back the structure in our lives, or dreading it for the same reason!!

IsabellaofFrance · 03/01/2016 11:18

Maybe the reason its so raw is because its so new to me meglet. Its only been two weeks.

There is so much going on in my head and that I need to sort, when really I just want to crawl back under the duvet. I can't though. Three DC's to care for and H has an appointment with a solicitor on Tuesday.

changeoflife · 03/01/2016 11:33

Isabella, be kind to yourself. If it's only two weeks then you are still in the throes of the awful nightmare. I could barely function after two months, let alone two weeks!! Just go through the motions, dress & feed the children. Don't expect too much of yourself. You need time to grieve. I am 3 years on and still have days where I struggle. I just soldier on through to the next day and hope that it will get better. Invariably it does.

Have you got a solicitor appointment?

IsabellaofFrance · 03/01/2016 18:29

Thanks Change. I am going to make one this week. H has contact with several through work so he found it much easier to make an appointment.

BlackeyedShepherdsbringsheep · 03/01/2016 19:01

two weeks is nothing. you will not have developed the routines yet and it will all be new and strange. I remember it taking several weeks for it all to settle down and become normal. Still not got used to taking the bins down after five years... but that is the last thing.

BlackeyedShepherdsbringsheep · 03/01/2016 19:02

beans on toast as a main meal featured frequently at first. still a good stand by

megletthesecond · 03/01/2016 21:58

isabel that's such early days for you. Give it time, winter doesn't help either. You'll find your feet Flowers.

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Klaptout · 03/01/2016 22:14

Hello all, I will be glad when we get some semblance of routine back to be honest. Christmas and new year have been tough, being on duty 24/7 wears me out.

Solo · 04/01/2016 00:52

Hello all Grin Glad to see new people too :) Welcome!! Thanks

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IsabellaofFrance · 04/01/2016 08:33

Are you all back to work/school today?

My middle DS has severe ASD and hates Christmas and the change in routine, so he is definiteoly glad that the Christmas is over (except for the extra chocolate).

Solo · 04/01/2016 11:01

I'm back to work this afternoon and Dd back to school on Wednesday. I'm definitely not looking forward to it. She's not looking forward to school either!

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BlackeyedShepherdsbringsheep · 04/01/2016 13:58

isabella, have you been over to the goose and carrot? not if many of the regular drinkers are single as well. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/special_needs_chat/2538941-New-Year-at-the-Goose-and-Carrot-1-1-16?msgid=58449763#58449763

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PrizeyPrize · 04/01/2016 19:54

Hi everyone, kids back tomorrow so we've marked the last day of holidays with swimming and pizza and it's been lovely. However, I cannot bloody wait for tomorrow Blush. Just to have an hour of not hearing 'mummiiiiiiieeee' followed by either 'where is my....' 'Can I have a snack' 'she called me....' 'He hit me' 'I'm bored' 'what's for dinner' 'Can I have another quality Street?', I could go on. I'm really fraying at the edges, it's so tiring. But the cuddles are wonderful, I must say. Anyone else's fuses about to blow?

IsabellaofFrance · 04/01/2016 20:48

Thanks Black. I do pop in now and again although I am not a regular :)

warmleatherette · 04/01/2016 21:20

Hi. I posted a couple of times on the other thread and tonight I want to scream into the void. It just....never....STOPS.

Single parent since 2011 when kids were 2 and 3. Now working almost full-time (32 hours) at a crappy job that fits in with the kids and is local - looking after elderly people with dementia. Can't believe that I used to have an actual career and now...this.

The house is a tip and the children still aren't asleep despite my best efforts. I need to iron the uniforms for the morning, and I know the kids will kick off tomorrow because they won't want to go back to school after the holidays. I feel so overwhelmed and utterly alone. Feel like I'm failing my children even though they seem happy right now, but for how much longer?

My life is so utterly far from what I thought it would be it's unbelievable. Can't console self with thoughts of suicide because I can't do that to the kids. And I'm an "older mother" so my next landmark birthday is 50, which feels too old to turn things around or kickstart my career. Gloom!

I tell myself 2016 will be the year things change for me but now really I just think I'm a failure as a person and this miserable mediocrity is as good as it's going to get.

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