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Sister is having a breakdown.

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Mrecsac Tue 22-Dec-15 14:44:01

Please help. I think my sister is having a breakdown. She has two children, boy and girl under 5. She was involved in a violent relationship that ended and her extra tried to kill her and the children and in the process seriously injured our parents causing life changing injuries. He is in prison. She is a lone mother and is clearly struggling. She has leaned on me for help and support for many years, I have always been there for her and my niece and nephew. Her daughter has been having a hard time and is very out of character and ice managed to get her private counciling that she will hopefully start in the new year, her son has always been boustrrous. I'm worried and don't know what to do, she has been treating them awfully. Nothing physical, but verbally she is nasty and mean. She says things like "this is why nobody wants you" "you're a fucking bastard" "I hate you" etc. She loves them to bits, she is on a waiting list for counciling and cognitive behavioural therapy and takes anti depressants. I can't support her treating the children this way, but she clearly needs help. Im at a loss for what more I can do. I'm on anti depressants myself due to the incident as me and my two children were involved but not injured.

Any help advice is much appreciated xxxx

Ann07 Wed 23-Dec-15 12:33:26

I have a had a breakdown myself around a year ago with very little help and understanding.
Was violence involved but mainly psychological abuse was the worse from the father of one of my children.
All i can advise is continue with your support.
Ive found that their doesnt seem to be alot of help out there.
Im still asking now but dont seem to be getting anywhere x

howtorebuild Wed 23-Dec-15 12:37:53

You may all be suffering PTSD, though that's no excuse to be shout you hate the child etc. Can you take the children for a while, that's not on leaving them endure that. The GP needs to help you all.

LeaLeander Wed 23-Dec-15 12:44:59

You need to focus on getting the children away if she is treating them that way. They will be even further scarred than they are. It's not fair to them.

Ann07 Wed 23-Dec-15 13:08:15

Gps dont really help tho they just give you a card for counselling and give tablets x

Mrecsac Wed 23-Dec-15 13:20:57

Unfortunately the gp is useless. I've concise red taking them from her for a while but I'm worried about my family. We are a family of 6 in a small 3 bed property. But my heart completely breaks. I'm worried I will effect the trial if I paint her to be unfit. It's very, very difficult. I am scared for them and her. I might seek medical advice and talk to our solicitor to see if I can get her treatment quicker. I can't leave them like it, love them to bits.

Ann07 Wed 23-Dec-15 14:09:41

The children are very lucky to have you.
When the counselling starts im sure that will help. I went when i was pregnant with my daughter but unfortunatley after i had her i went to start again at a different centre. Was looking forward to my session but was told in front of the whole of the reception area that children were not allowed as i had my baby with me.
Explained that i needed help and one of my reasons for attending was due to lack of support including childcare. X
Is there a health visitor involved at all ? I know they can b useless too but sometimes can offer help xx

cestlavielife Wed 23-Dec-15 20:44:45

There must have been ss involvement if he tried to kill her and was charged. Can you calk them tomorrow Call nspcc for advice. It's not ok for the dc to be shouted at like that.

Mrecsac Thu 24-Dec-15 12:15:37

There is no social service involvement whatsoever. Looking back over the years police, health visitors, social have all failed this family.

cestlavielife Thu 24-Dec-15 12:27:17

Wil they be with you today and tomorrow ? If she literally having a breakdown you will have to be prepared to take kids and have her to go to a and e to be assessed

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