ExDP and I have a 4 year old and a six year old. He has them two nights a week and every other weekend. He pays 266 a month maintenance which is less than he should as he is self employed and hides his income. It actually takes him 2 hours to make that much money.
Anyway, he has gone away for nearly 3 weeks as part of his hobby (which is also his work.) this is completely voluntary and due to the nature of it, he will either be getting lots of money or free (expensive) gifts for this, I have no way of finding out as he won't tell me. I have happily had the kids for the 8 days he should have had them while he's been away. He said he would give me some extra cash to cover the extra costs but I have no idea what's reasonable.
Due to the nature of my job ( I do long shifts, nights etc) I can't work when I have the kids. So I have taken 8 shifts off work, 4 as annual leave, 4 as unpaid as I have no leave left.
So where do I start? By looking at how much it would have cost him to arrange 8 days round the clock childcare? By looking at how much money it has cost me in lost income, increased food bills etc? Or as a proportion of the maintenance?
For the record, it's like getting blood out of a stone....
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Cerealchanger · 09/12/2015 15:13
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