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i am so overwhlmed right now

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purpley Sun 06-Dec-15 13:55:18

i am single mother of 20 months old it's so hard when it comes to cleaning the house when i am moping the floor he is falling down on the wet floor i don't get 5 minute to my self i wish i was dead. so i always wonder when will he understand what i am telling him and when will he be grown up and when will all this be a past when will it get easy it's being nearly 3 years since he took over my life starting from the pregnancy.

Walkacrossthesand Sun 06-Dec-15 15:32:15

I'm sorry you're feeling so overwhelmed. Can I suggest that you 'report' your post and ask MN to move it to the 'lone parents' board - that's busier and there will be people there who have walked the same road.

WorldsBiggestGrotbag Sun 06-Dec-15 15:42:07

Does he nap? I could only ever get jobs done while mine was asleep! I now have a 2 year old and a 5 month old and I don't get anything done again.

loveliesbleeding1 Sun 06-Dec-15 15:49:26

Do things little and often, and try to work a routine around your little boy.if you know he is probably going to fall on the wet floor do it when he is in bed at night.Please don't say you wish you were dead, no tidy house is worth thinking that for, you can have a spotless home when your son starts nursery.
I know it's hard, trust me flowers.

purpley Sun 06-Dec-15 16:08:09

thank you so much all of you not only the house it's everything in my life i don't get anything done i have being in a worse insinuation before like when i was homeless and he was infant but i would like a break even for a 1 hour to myself so to get that i stay awake in the night which makes me so tired all day.

purpley Sun 06-Dec-15 16:09:31

how do i ask MN to move my post

WorldsBiggestGrotbag Sun 06-Dec-15 16:17:30

Has he got a routine? Nap/bedtime etc? The best thing you could do in my opinion is get him into a routine so you know you've got that time I yourself. At 20 months mine was napping 2 hours at lunchtime and in bed for 7.30pm (in fact still in the same routine now). Those bits of time to yourself are invaluable!

Kbear Sun 06-Dec-15 16:48:14

Please don't wish yourself dead, look at his little face and know how much he needs you. The floor doesn't need mopping. Try and get out every day for some fresh air and hopefully that might make him nap better. You are everything to him (and probably to lots of people), keep strong and don't feel overwhelmed by things that don't matter, like the housework. What matters is you have your life together and he is warm and fed and cuddled by his lovely mum.

Walkacrossthesand Sun 06-Dec-15 18:54:29

Click on the dots at the bottom of your post, then click 'report post' and ask MN to move it. You sound very low - do you have a health visitor you could talk to?

DawnMumsnet (MNHQ) Sun 06-Dec-15 19:00:40

Hi there, we're moving this thread over to our Lone Parents topic now.

We hope you get lots more good advice and support there, purpley. flowers

whatdoIget Sun 06-Dec-15 19:05:20

Please don't wish yourself dead. It's hard hard hard but it gets easier. Your son is lucky to have you. Mop less often?

loveliesbleeding1 Mon 07-Dec-15 07:39:48

I hope you have a better day today purpley.

megletthesecond Mon 07-Dec-15 07:48:19

Sorry you are struggling. Take a step back and relax today.

Firstly, does the floor need mopping, maybe if you have a dog it might be necessary though. I've never mopped mine, it just gets a baby wipe and Dyson every so often. It's still clean.

Back later, got to get the dc's to school.

Mrswinkler Mon 07-Dec-15 07:56:20

Have you seen your GP? I think you getting overwhelmed is a sign of depression. It's really hard when you feel like this to ever see a way out. If you can help your self feel better then you won't get so stressed out about the everyday things.

Do 't be hard on yourself, it's the hardest job in the world being a mum x

purpley Mon 14-Dec-15 23:32:18

thank you so much everyone

purpley Mon 14-Dec-15 23:34:21

yes he has his regular routine but sometimes he doesn't want to sleep on time.

whatdoIget Tue 15-Dec-15 13:11:44

I wonder if you'd be able to get a funded nursery place for him when he's 2? If you could it'd give you a break. This is the link. Scroll down for 2 year olds.

purpley Wed 23-Dec-15 08:58:53

he is entitled 15 hours a week when he is 2 i am so excited about that

Littleonesaid Wed 23-Dec-15 09:09:33

Could you get a play pen? Safer than having him on a wet floor and means you know he's ok whilst you work round him. flowers

purpley Sat 26-Dec-15 14:35:36

he has it already but he deosn't like it and he also never play with his toys he has tons of toys

NoToast Tue 29-Dec-15 00:18:06

Hope you're doing ok. If it's any consolation I think a lot of us single parents really struggle to stay on top of everything. I have good food weeks when lots of shopping and batch cooking has been done but the house will be a mess. There are tidy weeks but then I haven't done much shopping and cooking!

Don't be hard on yourself.

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