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sodding Christmas!

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CherryPicking · 20/11/2015 10:45

This is the first year where I've really felt like boycotting the whole thing. Dcs will be with their dad for much of it. My family have been pretty unpleasant this year and I just don't want to see them. The thought of work Christmas parties fills me with dread. I've had a shit year and nothing to celebrate, besides 3 amazing kids. I'm sick of going to things on my own - standing around making small talk with people who either bore me to tears or don't give a fuck about me. And alcohol isnt exactly going to help! Just...bah humbug!

I'm not even religious, I don't believe God gives a rats are, if he\she exists at all. Yeah, Jesus said some OK things, but then so did Karl Marx and we don't celebrate his birthday. And its not as though anyone actually puts any of those nice ideas into practise
The world is a cold, indifferent, selfish place and perhaps we should just be honest with ourselves about that, rather than all this forced tinsel, trees, money and presents and trying to pretend everything's OK when it clearly isnt. People are dying in the cold and no one really cares.

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MsMargaretHale · 20/11/2015 10:49

Sounds like you have had a tough year!

Have you thought about volunteering over the Christmas holidays at a homeless shelter or elderly people's home? I think that can be much more rewarding than stuffing your face and spending money you do not have on things you do not need.

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CherryPicking · 20/11/2015 10:51

You're right,,Margaret I know I should do something like that - definitely. But I imagine most places will already have their quota of volunteers and won't need my help.

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putthehamsterbackinitscage · 20/11/2015 10:53

Sounds like you need a break not just from Christmas?

Is there anyway you can book yourself a break somewhere on your own with books or whatever you enjoy doing and get away for Christmas at least while DC aren't around?

Or if not, is there a homeless charity/ kitchen you could spend time at over Chrustmas - doing something positive and getting away from family ?

It is a lot of hype, especially if you're not in a relationship or with young children and after the build up, I always think it goes a bit flat anyway ...

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CherryPicking · 20/11/2015 11:56

I don't think I could really afford to go anywhere. My boiler seems to be breaking down with perfect timing so any 'spare' cash would probably go on that. I'll have my young dcs with me for Xmas day and the second week of the holidays. It's just the first week I need to fill.