How much do you spend on Xmas / birthday for LO? I have one DD, nearly 2. I'm a LP. I have very limited support but some family/friends do contribute presents at Xmas and birthday. I'm part of a circle of mums, all the others are married, in couples where both of them work, in professional jobs (teachers, nurses, engineers etc). So it's not exactly a level playing field in that sense to begin with but the other parents are not millionaires and this isn't a particularly rich area.
I've had a couple of conversations recently where I guess I'm shocked to discover that other parents are spending/receiving about £1000-£1500 worth of presents for LO's special occasions (i.e. Xmas/birthday combined), in addition to which maybe £50-100 on a birthday party. I'm looking at something closer to £300 from myself, family and friends all combined, for the two occasions combined, in the course of a year.
Am I being stingy? I don't want my DD to be spoilt and would rather she has a few things she plays with and appreciates. However, I did grow up in a relatively poor and LP household myself and though we never went without, my parents/family would usually give one carefully selected 'big' present and a few other smaller bits, and it was usually something educational. So perhaps other families do buy a lot more and I"m just out of touch.
For Christmas, for example, I was planning e.g. small toy kitchen + few accessories, + duplo set, + a few stocking fillers. And for birthday e.g. scooter + few dressing up bits + few new books. Maybe some little bits alongside those if I see a nice puzzle or second hand something. Whereas, when I mentioned my DD's 'biggest' present to one of the other mums she just said 'oh yes, my DD is getting that as well', as though it was an insignificant 'extra' item.
I am struggling to understand why you would need to spend that much money on a two year old? At this age, thank goodness, you can get away with spending a small amount. Fast forward two or three years and the difference will be immense. You will be asked for all sorts of things! I got my DD a little stocking when she was two. It had a couple of soft toys, some chocolate coins, a few books, a game etc. Nothing major. This year, she is compiling a list.... she is five.