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Can I suggest you post in Legal for more advise..

Are you not getting maintenance?

CMS minimum for maintenance, which doesn't even cover the nursery fees. I earn too much (ha!) for any tax credits.
He's going on yet another holiday at new year, and we won't even have a tree because of his sodding litigation. Yet I had to sit through the lecture today about us 'working together in our son's best interests'.
Consulting the solicitor tomorrow, just really fed up right now. The whole system is a joke.

Ditch the barrister and represent yourself? Or get a McKenzie Friend?
Are CAFCASS involved? What does your ex want? What do you want?
Completely sympathise, I'm in a similar situation, it's a nightmare.

Self represent. Is no where near as scary as you would think. Ex h did this when we no longer wanted to pay for yet another cao hearing. Judges are now familiar with this since the abolition of almost all legal aid and have a duty to 'assist' you with procedure whilst remaining unbiased. (He won ) you should also ask for a fee exception form. The money you are 'allowed' before you don't qualify is a huge amount more then for benefits and includes child care. You may not get a full exemption but should get a % if you are only just over the tax credit threshold. Sorry, can't scroll back to re-read whilst posting. Didn't see if you were married or not. I hope you were. If so can you not secure a small Xmas loan against your divorce settlement. ?

I asked the question, but from the other side of my solicitor. His answer was an order will be made in absentia.
The word of caution I would have about not attending is that often there is to and fro between legal teams to get agreement which you will not be able to be part of and without you to compromise you may end up with an order you don't like.

Bless you... I hope you are ok. How much contact does he want? And what does he have already?

Definitely attend, you do not need a solicitor. Parents often self-represent and the judges are used to this. If only one party are represented again the judge is experienced in dealing with this scenario. The Family Court Adviser will advise the judge on what they believe is the best outcome for the child. Larger courts often have volunteers who are able to accompany you into the hearing- check with the court.