My soon to be ex husband ( separated for over a year now ) and I don't have a formal contact agreement. He refuses to. He never has the kids at his house or overnight. He sees the kids every weekend and takes them out for a couple of hours max under duress on Saturday and Sunday. He arrives when he likes. We always agree a time but every single time he's late and I have to chase him. He always wants me to come with him and the kids wherever he takes them. There are always rows about absolutely everything but mainly as he is here in the house for hours often watching tv with them whilst they get bored or on his phone or sometimes he even falls asleep! This weekend he didn't turn up on Sunday morning at all to take my daughter swimming as he'd been up late the night before. He said that was my fault for upsetting him the day before. We had a row about toddler beds..!
I've asked him, written to him even countless times to try and sort out an arrangement but he just won't even consider sticking to one and demands to see the kids here in the house. He says it's better for them.
I am considering trying to ask/tell him I want a weekend without him to try and have one weekend without the arguing. I can't remember enjoying a weekend and I'm sick of it. Not to mention I'm also upset and feel terrible about the children having to put up with the chaos and tension.
I'd go down a legal route if I thought it would work but that would be costly and there is no way he'd keep to any arrangement made legally. I can't go to court every week when he doesn't adhere..
Feel desperate about it all.
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BelleBoyd · 09/11/2015 12:59
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