Hello everybody
I could really do with some advice!
I'm nearly at the end of my divorce process after nearly 2.5 years, and it's had its ups and downs, but recently things were a lot better. I suspected there may be a female influence on DH, and on our daughter's birthday, he announced that he's with someone. He does not see that telling me on that particular day is a problem or hurtful. .He saw me three times the week before and didn't say a thing, although he had ample opportunity;That might give an idea of how emotionally unaware he is of other people and a source of great stress in our marriage, but it's possible he did it to avoid a scene.
Anyway, he won't tell me who she is, if our daughter will be in contact with her or when he will tell our daughter. He only told me because he thinks our 10 year old might have seen some texts between him and this woman. However, I think it will be soon as he said today that our daughter won't see what goes on in the bedroom between him and the new woman. Let's call her ‘that person’, as he refers to her.
He is giving our daughter a birthday party next weekend and said That Person might be there.
I don’t know why the big secret, unless I know That Person.
I am frustrated with the situation. I am going crazy because our daughter might potentially be left with That Person and he won't allow me to know anything about her, if she has children, where she lives etc.
If you don’t know me, you might think I’m over-reacting, but he is just a stupid motherfucker of a waste of space and I deserve a whole lot better.
To make matters worse, I am in France and cannot take my child to live with me YET (that day will come soon I hope!!) in the UK, so I have to grin and bear all the crap he throws at me. This whole process has been so isolating, to be in another country without family, and yet i've survived thus far.
If any men are reading this, what’s your take, would you announce such a thing to the ex on your kid's birthday?? Was it really that necessary to rub my nose in it?
Thank you for listening.
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FramboiseCoulis · 23/10/2015 21:49
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