Hi,
I'm new to this but I just need a rant / some advice.
I have 2 children - 14 & 12 and I'm on my own with them and have been since they were 18 months and 2 1/2. My family - Mum, Dad, Brother and Sister have always been involved and very helpful. I have struggled at times following the break up with their dad - he cheated and that left me with a lot of issues - and have always appreciated their help and have at times needed my mum and dad in particular to step in and help with discipline etc when I didn't have the energy to!
Now they're older, I have got over a lot of my upset and issues about being a single parent (and with my own low self esteem) I have a great job, house (albeit across the road from my parents), boyfriend and a great social life. However, I find that my Dad in particular undermines me and tries to make me feel guilty at every opportunity. I'm 36 but he lectures me constantly about what he thinks I should be doing with the kids etc. the issue is compounded by the fact that he has bipolar and can be quite hurtful towards me (it's only really directed at me) at times and also that my daughter who is 14 has moved in with them because she didn't want to live by my rules.
I feel like my life is moving forward and on all other respects I am happy. My boyfriend and I are thinking of moving in together in the not to distant future and I want us to create a life and a home for ourselves without my dad influencing decisions etc. He has already tried to undermine my relationship at the beginning but thankfully it didn't work. Saying all of that my dad can be very kind and would do anything for anyone but it's almost like he expects whatever he wants in return and it isn't unconditional.
I could go on with examples but I won't. I just wondered if anyone else had any similar experiences or advice. It would be greatly appreciated.
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Teenagermum1979 · 16/08/2015 15:16
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