I'm 15 months into being a single mum. My ex is living with his new partner who is expecting a baby in a few months. The divorce is nasty and going through courts - ex has dragged it there. He left/decided marriage was over and OW appeared soon after...
I've always been main carer for the children who are 10 and 12. Letters have been pinging back and forth on access - the contentious remaining issue is
Xmas. The children have always spend xmas eve/day at home and had my family over, never spent with ex's family (he didn't want to, they never invited us). Last Xmas ex had them 3 days before Xmas eve, then they were home xmas eve/day (he came over to see them on Xmas day, I went out and left him to have time with them). They were with him Boxing Day and two days after.
He lives a short walk away... The children and I would like to repeat this pattern. He is looking for alternate Xmas - he wants them xmas eve and day this year. He is threatening court unless I agree.... This is really painful. Not sure what to do and would love advice/ideas.
He has them every other weekend and one night for tea plus 5 weeks total school hols and I have bent over backwards to accomodate his working patterns etc. I feel I have been very reasonable. Do I stand my ground or have i no hope on Xmas? Am sure lots of you have been there.... Thanks for reading x
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Access decisions - struggling with Xmas, ideas please?
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triathlonmum · 02/08/2015 20:33
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