Advice, facing separation

[backdatednamechange]

Hi. I think relations with H have degraded to the point of separation.

His parents live 4 hours away and he will go back and live with them. I am NC with his parents for various abusive reasons.

Our children are 2 and nearly 1.

Will a court force me to let him take them up north for contact every weekend or Eow? As opposed to him seeing them where we live now?

Can I prevent his parents seeing them? They don't have their best interests at heart.

I am sick with worry about this and at the moment it's keeping me with him.

[Bellemere]

1. Yes, eventually - every other weekend more likely than every weekend and potentially away for holidays as well.
   
2. Not unless you have evidence of them being a risk to the children.

[backdatednamechange]

When is eventually?

Aren't they too little to do that journey twice in 3 days. Every fortnight?

Wouldn't it be better for their dad to stay near us?

[backdatednamechange]

No evidence. Just things like them smoking around dd when she was recovering from bronchitis, bullying texts to H that sort of thing.

[ATeacherWritesHome]

So sorry to hear this. I hope you're okay. I really think you need to talk to a lawyer. Normally the first consultation is at a discounted rate and I think it will be the best money you ever spend.

[woowoo22]

Agree with speaking to a lawyer, and also CAB are handy and possibly Women's Aid if he's been abusive.

Don't let the fear of what might or might not happen in the future keep you in a shitty situation now.