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Tell me it gets easier...(4 Posts)
Hi all. Looking for some support. Second night in a new house me and my ds1. On fairly amicable terms with stbxh so been visiting him there in our 'old house'. Ds1 finding it hard to settle in his new room. He's only 4. Shouting out 'I want to go back to my old house'. 'I don't want to sleep here'. He is really happy here in the day and actually asking to go to the new house and play etc. but at night he's upset. It's breaking my heart as I want to go back to the old house too, but me and my stbxh can't work it out. Any tips on what to say to my ds1. Or just any words of support that it does get easier???!
Hi! Didn't want to leave your post unanswered. It will get easier, it will just take time, nights are the worst( even for adults! ) he's just adjusting to the new routine of things. Could stbxh not visit you in the new house to reduce the new old gap a bit?
If it any constellation my DS used to ask when his sad was coming
awww sounds really hard...! sorry to hear that. sounds like he just needs to settle in a bit.
what about asking DS to join in with buying some nice new stuff for the new bedroom to make it really his... choose a cool duvet, pictures, help decorate and personalise it a bit...go out on a mission and make it all about him getting some nice stuff he loves to make the space really his (or if you can't afford it maybe you can make some stuff together).
I think the bluff it is the best response if you feel sad too.
If you moved home with a 4 year old and he wasn't settling it wouldn't be an option to go back..
Little ones do adapt very quickly.. Let him know this is the beginning of a brand new adventure.
Snuggly duvet and film on sofa tomorrow before bed..
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