... how you feel about this person's terminology?
I know a mother who has a 4yo DS with additional needs. His father left the family home when DS was 1.4 and moved away for a short while, but then moved to within an easy distance after around a year and has weekly overnight contact and it's all very amicable as far as I can tell.
The woman in question has lived with a (very lovely-seeming) new DP since DS was nearly 3. In the time that she had no DP around she had good support from family and friends. No doubt there was a period of time which was really very difficult, but she had a good network of support.
The mother has always been very vocal about her experiences as a single mother - she wrote a (self-indulgent but fairly well received) blog about it and organised some networking events for local single mums.
However, in the last year or so, she has begun to label herself so regularly as a "single mum" that I'm starting to feel uncomfortable about it. She is appropriating the label to draw attention to herself, usually in the context of a political discussion, but also often as a tool for self-promotion or to try and scout out freebies/similar from companies. She is making lots of noise on Twitter about the cuts and the state of services in her area, which I hope will do some good. However the majority of her self-identification as a "single mum" seems to be with the hope of getting companies to go "oh hi X, you sound like you could do with some tea and cake!" as we know they are inclined to do.
Add to this the fact that she is now far from alone in parenting her son, and is lucky enough to have a DP who supports them both so she can stay at home with him, and have a lot of family around (plenty of babysitting on hand if her night out photos are anything to go by).
I'm not particularly asking much, other than do people agree that this mum is not very "single" or "lone" and is appropriating an emotional title which should really not be thrown about for personal gain.
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SnoozeTheCat · 21/07/2015 10:38
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