Hi, i posted not long ago about an argument i had with my now exdh. The thread had some helpful comments on it and some not so helpful, but i thought i would ask for advice again on here as there's not really anyone i know in real life that is in my situation.
Firstly, even though dh has been quite a prick to me, he is a good dad and the kids adore him, i want them to see him as often as possible.He wants to see them as much as he can too, and our arrangement so far has seen us both spend lots of time with them, but i feel like its too all over the place and the kids are back and forth a lot.I am quite happy to do this and be friendly and so is he.
At the moment it is like this
Monday- daytime with me, evening and overnight at dads
Tuesday-all day and overnight with me
Wednesday- daytime with me, evening and overnight at dads
Thursday-all day and overnight with me
Friday- same as mon and weds
Sat- dad drops them at mine at noon, rest of the day and overnight with me.
Sun-dad picks them up at noon, take them back to his for rest of day and overnight.
Dh is happy with this arrangement and would rather it not change, the kids haven't said they want it to change but they do occasionally moan as i guess sometimes they just want to stay in one place. I had never questioned it until some people on here said it wasn't good for the kids to be dragged between houses every other day... and there is a lot of "whos house are we at today mummy" .
Does anyone have any suggestions for ways we could do it better?
I suggested one night in the week and then weekends but he said that wasn't enough. My friend suggested instead of him having them at his he should come to mine and spend time with them and put them to bed, so they still see him but they are disturbed as much.
I just feel they need some consistency.
Also its worth mentioning they are home educated so when i say they are with me all day, i do mean all day!SO even though he has them more nights than me at the moment i still see them a lot more.
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abearcalledpaddington · 01/07/2015 14:22
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