What exactly is the point of having a court finance order on divorce, when it is only legal for a year and my ex changes it at every second?!
My exh walked out on me and 2 DCs 3 years ago. He continued to pay the mortgage plus maintenance for another 18months. We then sold the house and I moved to rent with new DP. We agreed outside of CSA, as dh was a high earner, he would pay me £1500pm and then drop to £1000pm once both DCs were at school.
A year ago exh lost his job. He got another, but lower paid, so payments dropped to £1000pm.
My DP pays half of all house bills, but other than that our finances are separate. He has recently taken out a loan to get himself a (rather flashy) new car. Nothing to do with me.
Exh has hit the roof and says we obviously have "too much money" and he will reduce payments, as of next week, to £750pm. I think he is honestly going to continue doing this until he is paying only CSA rates! I don't understand why he can't see that mine and DP keep our money seperate. Perhaps I should be insisting on a cut of whatever he spent on his whores engagement ring, or the cost of their wedding?! He says he is going to spend the extra money on a holiday with DCs which has "never been able to afford" - despite the multiple trips abroad he and his DP have been on over the past few years. My DP and I have never been away together, we save for one week in a caravan every year with the DCs :0(
(I appreciate that it sounds like I get a lot of money, so sorry for sounding greedy to those of you who get a lot less, but we live in an area where that won't even cover my half of the rent but I am not entitled to any other benefits. It is also the principle that we can make a long term financial agreement, have it legalised by the court, only for him to keep changing it and me to have to continually adapt)
Do I actually have a leg to stand on if I took this argument further, or will I just be told to cut back and suck it up?
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Letitgoletitgo · 21/05/2015 18:11
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