I recently split from exdp I now live alone with my 2 children and i am feeling so incredibly lonely its unbearable ... i hate the though of not being able to cope without a man in my life and have never felt like this before but i have lost all of my confidence ..I was upset when dp and i ended relationship but it gradually ended and i new it was pretty much over this time last year we officially said it out loud in oct and separated in march. .. however i dont feel all that sad about the relationship as he has changed completely and i have spent the past year coming to terms with it , but i feel so lonely i am struggling to cope with it . i feel desperate to meet someone , which is obviously the very worst way to feel when i do eventually meet someone .
I am not close to my family at all and i have one really great best friend but she has ME and is quite different to me , she doesnt have children and isnt going to she doesnt like going out in the evening and or doing much at all as she is very ill .
I am currently on anti depressants and they are working and im taking care of myself but i want so much to be content as an individual which doesn't seem possible
is there anyone else who feels the same ?
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edgarsuit · 02/05/2015 10:37
I feel the same, although I have kind of met someone but I can not introduce him to my family ( it's too soon and I'm not even sure it it's going anywhere ), most of the time I am stuck at home, have no one to look after the kids other than my ex. The evenings are the worst and I often find myself drinking. I can't see that I will ever have another serious relationship as I come with too much baggage 
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I miss having someone to hold me, someone to talk too and someone to moan at. For me it's still very early days and I hope things will get better, I don't regret leaving my dh, it was the best thing to do but it's going to take a long time to get used to being alone.
My dc's are school age ( which helps a little ), I do have hobbies but they are not very sociable hobbies. I don't really have problems meeting men but I smile scared of taking thing further as I know they are likely to run when they meet my dc's. I want to have fun and date men but I'm not sure I can every take it further and introduce them into my family, maybe in time this will change. My dc's are fab, they are easy going and would happily welcome anyone into our family but they are also very different from most children, they can be hard work at times and they still take up a lot of my time despite being a bit older. I think a outsider looking into my home would think my life is chaos and very different from normal family life.
I have never really been alone for very long, the longest was before I met dh, I was on my own for a year and everything was good but I still missed having someone. I married dh when I was 22 which was too young, we rushed into things without thinking . I know I need to get used to being alone but it's hard, I want someone to share problems with, someone who I can talk to about the dc's but I feel that's too much to put on anybody.
I do feel very sad. Ive been single for 2 years and all my relationships ended, one with death and the rest with other women. I feel so bitter and jealous when i see others having their wedding (i know thats an awful thing to say ) days while i just get screwed over. My self esteem is in the dumps im alone with 4 kids im starting to think- maybe im just unloveable... Maybe im just destined to be alone, to never have my own special day, to never have that companionship for long. Maybe im just unworthy, n other women deserve it more.
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