Good Morning
I am here seeking any advice/help etc, as the title suggests, I am really struggling right now.
I am a lone parent of 5 children, my oldest is 19 years', and my youngest is 5 years. I was in a very abusive relationship for 20 years', and I am divorced after being on own for 2 years' now. It was a horrendous marriage, and I was far too scared to leave, but in the end I did it, and its been one of the best things that I have did so far. After their dad left, I regained my confidence,left my job, went to college, then gained a placed at university to study a course that I wanted to do for over 20 years'.
The issue that I have right now, is that I have met a wonderful guy(never thought I would,), I never sought it, initially we were friends, then we found that we had so much in common etc, and as the cliche goes, we fell in love, and its been wonderful. He is everything in a man that I have always wanted he is kind, gentle, patient, understanding, calm, great with money, has a good job, and is a wonderful father to his children etc etc. (he is divorced as well). We are taking is very very slowly as he is aware that both of us are not rushing anything.
My children have been aware off him from the beginning, they were okay with that. I am always respectful of my chlidrens feelings, they always come first etc, and I have repeatedly told them that. I love them very very much, and my children are my life. A few days' ago, I told them that I was beginning to fall in love with him, and it was wonderful. They took it really bad, my 12 year old (who already has issues with anger etc, and I am awaiting an referral to CAMHS team about possible diagnosis for Aspergers etc), took it very badly, she was physically and verbally abusive towards me, and I tried talking to her etc, that they all come first, but she is not having it. She is now refusing to go to school unless she said I stop speaking to him etc., I have told her repeatedly that I love them all very much, and she is my child and they always come first. Its been an awful few days' for me, I am so stressed out and I have been in tears all day yesterday and today.
Their dad knows about this new guy(the children told him), and he was always manipulative anyway, and he's made things a lot worse, saying horrendous things about me etc., to my children. He is an awful man and a rubbish father, etc etc. etc.
I am struggling all the time, any advice would be gratefully appreciated. I just do not know what to do, do I give up my new relationship as my children are not happy.
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Needadvice2 · 29/04/2015 09:33
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