I know they say that children save their worst for the parent they feel closest too but it's so frustrating being the one that gets the grief. Ex thinks it must be my "environment" that's causes this and says he never has any issues with them.
I'm aware that they must suffer from transition issues when coming back to me after being with their Dad. They are often worse during the first half hour. I also find if I've had them a few days in a row they are much better than if I haven't seen them for a couple of days.
I am primary carer during school term but it's more split over holidays and I'm wondering if them seeing more of their Dad is a good idea when they seem so unhappy once he drops them back with me.
Is it because they are angry at missing me or angry at the separation- or have they been overstimulated at their Dad's. I wish I knew if this was normal.
It is so difficult to look forward to seeing them and then have a horrible afternoon with them . I end up crying (not good I know) and we all end up crying. I text my ex to say they seem exhausted and upset and he says " you are always saying they are tired it's bollocks" and saying they've had a wonderful time with him.
What is the answer. I think I need more time with them in the holidays but I think ex will disagree.
Be interested to hear if my experience is common- do mothers really get the brunt of the anger after divorce?
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Children whiny, upset, critical with me- perfect with ex.......normal?
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coparenter · 06/04/2015 21:35
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