dp and i split in oct we have continued living together due to housing / finance issues and i'm due to move out in around 3 weeks with the children.
However ex has over the past 2/3 months become extremely abusive mostly verbally and has never actually harmed me although has always been very aggressive especially when he's been drinking .. he will punch doors , throw stuff, scream and shout, slam even head but door frames (weird i know) only ever at objects never at me. and he has done a lot of anger management and parenting courses genuinely wanting to help himself when we were together and mostly managed to control it. - ish
Over the past few months since being broken up he calls me a cunt no less than 5 times a day , bitch , piece of shit , psycho , demented and will fly off the handle (all in front of the kids ) if i don't so much as laugh hysterically at his jokes i have been grinning and bearing it until the move . but tonight he came home after drinking (i have asked him not to drink if he is coming home as it puts us at risk he says its me ) and i was genuinely really scared . he was vile and then threw his dinner (on the plate ) at me and really launched it directly at me with intent to hit me ... refusing to leave came very close to me as if he was about to beat the crap out of me .. He didn't then left after much begging from me ..
he has showed signs of aggression in the past but nothing like this .
After the past few months i have seen this side to him that has clearly always been in there but he has managed to keep bubbling mostly under the surface .. i'm not worried about me were over and done with and i now i have the issue of him having the children and what scares me is when he meets someone else he will inevitably continue this behaviour in front of them away from me and depending on the new partner could be a lot worse .. stopping him from seeing the children seems very very drastic and i will defiantly end up the bad guy . but obviously i don't trust him to look after them properly on his own and put them 1st
i'm so confused what would you do
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edgarsuit · 11/03/2015 20:53
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