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Maintenance from the donor

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Loveallmyboys Sat 17-Jan-15 15:17:15

After a bit of advice...
My ex(who I shall refer to as 'the donor') isn't very hands on with our son. He is very much a bare-minimum parent. Always has been. He sees him every Sunday 12-6(pick up time has got later and later over the years as he likes a lie in) and every other weekend he has him over night 7pm sat-6pm Sunday. He VERY rarely picks him up from school, we live in the same road but DS isn't allowed to knock at his dads, he has to come and get him(?!). And he only pays £20 a week for his son... Reckons that's right for the amount he earns. And if I want him to see his son more, he'd give me less money! Can it get any less without me paying him?!
Anyway, AIBU to think he IBU?
He once said he can't see him more because 'he has his own life too, you know!'

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Loveallmyboys Sat 17-Jan-15 15:18:54

Should have mentioned DS is 11 and donor is self employed. Which makes me think he might not be declaring everything he earns...hmm

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petalsandstars Sat 17-Jan-15 15:24:50


Nolim Sat 17-Jan-15 15:25:05

He has his own life. His son is not in it.

petalsandstars Sat 17-Jan-15 15:25:40

Sounds like he's a bit of a twat then really. Would cms be better?

Loveallmyboys Sat 17-Jan-15 16:16:56

He reckons I'd get less if I did it officially. I suspect that's because he would lie about how much he earns.
And yes, I think his son is a massive inconvenience to him

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number1daddy Sat 17-Jan-15 23:12:19

My ex pays the minimum £5 a week apparently on income support.

We have never relied on her money and I find that's the best way really.

Good luck though.

Loveallmyboys Sun 18-Jan-15 05:26:25

I don't rely on it, but bugs me that he gets away with contributing so little time and money!

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