Hi all. Left my crappy EA stbxh-of-14yrs in June 2013. There was no love by the time I kicked him out - but there has been plenty of hurt from his continued entitled and crappy behaviour and a total lack of closure (he simply sloped off - toaster) and is little more than an EOW babysitter for my dc.
I am in counselling, I have come a long way!
In August this year I met a wonderful man who treats me very well and really sees the real 'me'. We have become close, has progressed quite quickly, he is also divorced and has a dd similar in age to my youngest. The dc have met on a couple of occasions.
He is very keen on me and would move in go the whole hog - marriage the lot. I have told him I feel very very cautious about this relationship because my ex and I got together in a whirlwind romance and married very quickly. He has been very respectful of that. When he has suggested inviting my dc over I have totally freaked, however, really freaked!!!!!
I think I am realising that I do not want to be in a blended family (he is a fantastic dad which my ex never was, but his different parenting style raises my hackles a bit!).
This has made me feel very down about my future - that I will never be in a supportive full time partner relationship, that I had my chance at family life and that's it for me now.
I think I am on the brink of re-thinking this relationship as I don't know if he'll be happy to settle for a non-blended situation long term (though I don't know for sure) - he is always so keen to help me out and be functional - he is a 'doer' - again the total opposite to my ex.
I feel on the brink of ending another relationship. It makes me feel a particularly sad kind of sadness after all I've been through (and continue to deal with) and carrying the sole responsibility for ending my marriage and raising my kids.
Is this a rebound relationship that I 'needed to get out of my system'??
Anyone else understand how sad the prospect is of another failed relationship is after escaping a long term marriage with a crappy ea man?????
Or is there just anyone out there with a hand hold????
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