Please help. I'm looking for some quick advice!
My daughter is 10 months old and I split from my husband when she was 3 months old because I found out he's previously slept with a few women behind my back. He's been handling the breakup badly, by basically acting an idiot with me, to the brink of mental abuse at one point although this has stopped.
I allow him regular access. He works shifts, 6 work days then 4 off. he has her on two of his rest days which includes an overnight stay and before one of his first day shifts, so he has her from 10am to about 4pm.
My problem is he does not tell my anything about our DD, I don't mean what they've done together, where they've been, it's more has she had any tea, so I know whether or not to give her any food. when was her last bottle. I've tried a handover book which he won't complete, he won't email me or text me to tell me. he won't even let his mum tell me now (he moved back in with his mum)
what do I do, I need to know this whilst she is so young.
I also asked him what routine he does with her now I.e milk oz, food, naps just so we're both doing something similar and so I can tell the nursery when she starts in February, but again he won't tell me.
I'm at my wits end.
then today he emails me saying 'I dont want to talk to you at all but how is Eva today' so I've just replied to say, we'll talk at mediation, which is on the 16th and he comes back with 'haha you spiteful bitch' he turns everything onto me. but he cant not tell me important information then just expect to ask me whatever he wants whenever, which he has in the past and I (whether wrongly or rightly) usually have replied to.
I don't really want to stop access but this Is now ridiculous, surely I can't just let it continue.
I started back at work last week after maternity leave, so on some days he has to fetch Eva at 7am. so now he's saying, 'I'm not her child minder' but what else am I suppose to do when I have to get to work for 8am.
I just don't know what to think. He's driving me mad.
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newmummy470 · 07/01/2015 22:01
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