Went away last week & asked X to feed the cat while I was gone. Pissed off when I got back to discover he'd been nosing around and been hanging around drinking tea ' to spend time with the cat' but bit my tongue as he was doing me a favour.
Same time I transferred him money and asked if he would please get some bread and milk in for when we get back. Sent more money than needed in case he thought we needed anything else (sent £30) and got none of it back. Bit my tongue again as it was a favour.
Asked him to attend DD's outpatient appointment instead of me as it was for the day after I return to work after a period of sickness and I can't ask for time off, while he doesn't work. He said no. Fine. Bite my tongue as it's a pain in the arse, but can probably be rearranged.
I've asked and told him time & again to not come to the house without giving me notice. Wednesday he does it again to borrow stuff he'd left behind when he moved out. I'm really cross but don't say anything as A the kids are there & B I want to wait until I can calmly discuss it.
Sunday I ask him to have the kids for an hour to let me go to work to arrange my phased return. I apologise for cutting into his weekend off and ask him if he can let me know when he has a free hour on the day so I can go in. He tells me it's fine and he's happy to do it. He then doesn't get in touch. I arrange my stuff over the phone which is less than ideal & message him to tell him that I don't need the favour anymore. He gets back to me 3 hours later to ask what happened with my work stuff. I told him as much as it would affect him but also asked him, politely to take anything else from the house that he might want again as I don't want him to come without notice again.
Now he's pissed off with me and I feel like shit. Was I out of order? I thought I was being reasonable but now that he's so angry I'm not sure if it's just me taking out all my little annoyances over this one issue or if I was right.
Like I said, feel free to ignore. It's hard to vent as the children are always here so this has been therapeutic
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BippityBoppity · 10/11/2014 22:56
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