ExP and I split up around 18 months ago. Ex mil and I never got on, she's a very domineering person and wants everything her way, she interfered in ex and I relationship and he never stood up to her or defended me which was one of the reasons we split.
ExP and I have a contact arrangement, he visits 3yo dd at my house every Sunday and takes her out for lunch/park etc. I have residence and she doesn't stay at his house, he lives an hour away and I'm not happy for her to be away from her home without me overnight, I'd prefer ex visited her here and he's always been fine with this. At some point in the future this will change of course, but not yet, when she's old enough to benefit then she will 
Anyway, ex mil bought a cot for her and kitted out a room for her at ExP house about a year ago. Then she bombarded me with emails asking why I wasn't allowing overnights 
ExP confirmed he was happy not to have overnights.
I emailed ex mil at the time and told her politely that exp and I have an arrangement with dd. She left me alone after that.
Exp took dd (age 2) to soft play this morning, then gave her back early at lunchtime. Since then dd has been telling me about the peppa bed ex mil has bought her 
apparently she is delivering it to exp, so dd can have it there and sleep in it
ExP mentioned nothing about it when he left. Wwyd? I doubt dd is lying (why would she, she's got good speech and not likely mix up a bed..) I'm not sure whether to ignore it, as mil is overstepping and nothing can be done without my agreement with exp. But I think she's out of order to get dd excited about a Peppa princess bed, aside from anything else dd still co sleeps and when I tried her in a bed dd decided she wanted to sleep in my bed again after 10 mins. Perhaps mil I'd going to try to buy dd fancy stuff that I can't afford forever more though.
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Carrierpenguin · 02/11/2014 14:12
Yes, dd has been told that grandma has bought her a pink peppa princess bed and it's being delivered to daddy's house. So dd can only have it if she goes and stays there, which exp and I have not discussed and she doesn't currently. So yes, it's an expensive bribe. Maybe I should ask exp to dds fancy new bed delivered to my house 
I'd ask him, shame for it to never be used You need to be gentle and remind DD that she sleeps with you but she could use it if she needs a nap when she's at her dad's house during the day.
Your ex mil sounds like a right meddling minnie.
Thanks I will do that much as it is annoying to have mil trying to buy off dd and she's definitely a meddling minnie, I have to remind myself that I'm dds mum and ultimately it's not big gifts that dd needs.
Yup, mine's one of these. She went a bit too far and waltzed into ds's school one day and was stopped by the headteacher. She told the head I wouldn't give her or ds's father any information about how ds was doing at school and could she have a copy of his school report. The head told her to talk to me and sent her away. Problem here was I (and ds) only saw the ex every 18 months and he didn't give me his address so getting a copy to him would be neigh on impossible. Had naff all to do with her, hence why I didn't give her one to pass on. I get that they want to 'encourage' their son's to have a relationship with their dc, but there's a line they shouldn't cross. I think you need to put some boundaries in place now before she goes into your child's school and demands a copy of their report 
She could ask me, sand. It's not her place to go into my child's school during the day and ask for a copy of his report. She knew where I lived and saw us every 2 weeks so she knew exactly how ds was doing, and she was also invited to school concerts/plays and whatnot. I couldn't have done more to keep her involved. Her ds couldn't really give two shits and saw ds for an hour every 18 months where he fell asleep in the cinema or was so hungover he ended up shouting in ds's face.
Sorry, Carrier. I have no intention of hijacking your thread 
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