I split with exp last November, he was EA and didnt help with anything - i basically did everything in the house and for the DC whilst being called a fat slut 24/7 so i grew a backbone and moved out (he wouldnt).
My DC are preschool and theres only a small age gap so after many arguments i agreed that he could have contact with them one at a time, it soon became apparent that he didnt want to have my DS overnight because he was still up two or three times so i let that go, he had DD once a week.
When DS started sleeping through and i had ironed out the hell that was bedtime he agreed to start having them overnight together, every couple of weeks and that was great, i got a night off to sort my house out and get my head straight. One of the times i picked them up he asked if he could have them every weekend - Saturday at 11 until Sunday at 5, i agreed and that went really well for about 6 weeks, i really enjoyed the time to myself and it made me a much better mom to the DC during the week (i work 2 days a week aswell).
He asked if he could have last weekend 'off' to go to his parents as they live 200 miles away, he went on Friday night after work. On Saturday night he went out drinking with some friends and he randomly sent me a really nasty text stating 'i hate you so much, i wish i could get away with killing you' then an hour later 'you can have the kids, ill have new kids with someone that i love'. I was absolutely stunned but he was drinking and his nasty and violent streak always comes out then so i decided that i would just not text back and avoid the argument.
We were supposed to be going to the zoo today to celebrate DD starting nursery next week but hes not contacted me since that text. He was off yesterday and today and hes obviously not asked to see the kids. Nothing.
I dont know what to do, I dont want to validate him by texting him back. Im so absolutely clueless!! He doesnt pay any maintenance towards the children and ive always put off claiming something off the CSA or whoever because i know he struggles with money but im starting to get really angry now, how can he possibly do this to my children? What the heck is wrong with him!!! They are amazing kids, really great to be around - how can he just ignore them. He lives half a mile down the road.
I dont really know why im posting this, i should be in bed but im sat here thinking about what im going to do and i just dont know. Do i text and ask if hes having the kids this weekend or do i just ignore him and wait until he contacts me - what if he doesnt!! Do i let him walk away from my DC?
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whyhasmyheadgonenumb · 09/09/2014 22:21
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