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how to deal with ex DP moving on?

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zazA09Jane Thu 14-Aug-14 00:46:05

so im a newly single parent to my 14 month old son. His dad and I were together 4 years, (my first serious boyfriend)

we split up about 3 month ago (theres no sorting it out I 100% dont want to deal with his shit anymore) Ever since we broke up hes been flirting and arranging to meet up with women on his Facebook wall where I can clearly see it, and it does hurt because I will probably always care for him and I would never be so disrespectful and rub it in his face. im not even thinking about talking to another man but im just finding this very hard to deal with and I dont want it to create hostility between me and him because thats not good for our son..

did this happen to anyone else and if so how did you deal with it? ive actually deleted him off Facebook so I dont see any of that but I keep getting people telling me alsorts about what hes been up to and its really affecting me badly..

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Lonecatwithkitten Thu 14-Aug-14 07:39:28

Stop being his friend on Facebook so you are not having it thrust upon you all the time.
It is hard my ExH and I had been together for 11 years he moved out and straight in with someone else. It really hurt.
Now 2 years on I am not seeing anyone yet, but am in a much better place than he is.

balia Fri 15-Aug-14 14:28:27

You will find it much easier now you're off FB and when 'friends' come round with news about him, big smile and say 'I'm not really interested'.

zazA09Jane Fri 15-Aug-14 18:01:22

yeah I suppose, its hard because I also want to know what hes doing aswell, wierd going from always being with someone to not know anything about them.. but I guess im gunna have to grit my teeth and get on with it, thanks ladies smile

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ThistleDoMeNicely Fri 15-Aug-14 21:53:56

Have a glass of wine have one last snoop and remove him as a friend. Seeing this will only (understandably) upset you and you need to allow yourself the time to deal with your break up without seeing him flaunt his newly single life.

It's hard but honestly you will 100% feel better for it.

starlight1234 Sat 16-Aug-14 22:13:25

in answer to your title ...Getting on with your own life is the answer... You have a 14 month old so if not working get out to toddler groups. Use his access time to get out and about.

Also agree with Balia ..tell them you don't want to know... Finding out will help you in no way shape or form ..If anything it hinders you from moving on

Penbo36 Sun 24-Aug-14 16:37:00

I am in a similar situation. My husband left 6 months ago and was already in a relationship with someone else. I am really hurting and am struggling to move on. We have 2 children, aged 6 and 8 and she has 2 younger children and is also married (although no longer living with her husband). I cannot talk to him or look at him when he drops off the children or collects them, as of yet they have not met her, but I'm sure it's only a matter of time. I want to be able to forgive and move on but am not sure how. He removed himself from facebook as soon as he left, so I don't have his new life flaunted at me, which is a relief, but I don't know that it makes things any easier. I keep hearing time is a healer, 6 months on and I don't feel any less hurt/ angry etc... by what he has done.

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