Advice for single mum of newborn(6 Posts)
Adverbial99 Mon 28-Jul-14 21:33:33
Mumof3xox Mon 28-Jul-14 21:34:30
PenguinsHatchedAnEgg Mon 28-Jul-14 21:38:29
Adverbial99 Mon 28-Jul-14 21:53:13
Emmiedarling Wed 30-Jul-14 21:52:52
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Hi, I'm helping a friend prepare to become a single mother in a few months' time. She will stay in the UK for the first few months, before moving to the father's country (although they are not together) to bring up the child.
I am suggesting that she employ somebody to help in the very early days, but although I have a baby myself, I don't know what sort of help would be most useful (it also needs to be affordable within reason) -- somebody 24/7 for the first couple of weeks, or somebody for a few hours a day for a couple of months, or a combination of the two? And a doula, or a maternity nurse, or a nanny..?
I'd really appreciate any advice about this - many thanks.
Is there any reason you think she needs extra help?
Lots of women have babies on their own and do just fine?
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
I'm not a lone parent, but I saw this in active.
I'd say it depends what she wants. A maternity nurse will help get the baby in a strict routine, if that is a priority. It might help her long term if she had reliable time to herself? A post-natal doula will help look after her and the baby - and because it would be for a short amount of time each day would be affordable for longer.
I'd also think about putting money aside for a cleaner. Preferably one willing to also stick on some washing, etc. My husband works away a lot, and on stretches I am on my own, keeping on top of that stuff could be overwhelming in the early days. I can't even imagine how much harder it would be if you were a lone parent.
Wow, that was quick! Thanks lots, really useful. I've reposted in the childcare thread, thanks for that suggestion.
I am a single mum. I had a c-section so needed a bit of help at the beginning. I had a maternity nurse for the first week so i could sleep a bit - was well worth it!
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