sorry, feeling so down.
fed up as a lp (Ex was a wife and child beater, peed off somewhere and doesn't pay a penny, disappeared off the face of the earth (good thing actually))).
Im disabled, DCs disabled so we are limited in mobility as it is, I have to live on benefits as im a fulltime carer for lifelong disabled DC, cant afford to go anywhere parks become a bore after a while, museums are free but the journey there isn't, Dcs quite happy in her own enclosed little world (shes sitting on rug playing with her dolls atm) but im always feeling guilty. other children out playing/going to friends, DC cant as shes autistic and stuff, its literally just me and her. shes never complained or anything, but I find myself comparing myself to other families.
we have no one who ever offers to take us out, friends have their own families, we went out with some once and they were very impatient at us struggling to get up and down stairs and things and walking very slowly etc.and embarrassed when Dc had a meltdown.
we get no help whatsoever from 'services'. no groups to join as DC cant handle social situations -one to one is okay but that's it-. not her fault of course.
but weve NEVER had a break/holiday in 13 years. just cant afford it at all. rents gone up and my housing benefit doesn't cover the extra so cant even put away for emergencies, and cars on its last legs and we get no help for it even though we are both disabled.
BTW let me stressthis is NOT a begging thread, I know some people do this, and someone reported me once thinking I was one of those,im a regular here. this is just a rant and wanting a hug!
and then people wonder why I cant stand smugeron and his minions and the royals on yet another holiday.........
sorry its long.
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Im so sad I cant give DC the life she deserves.
LetZygonsbeZygons · 04/04/2014 20:07
There are charities which fund holidays for families like yours. Have you tried the family fund? //www.familyfund.org.uk
You're doing the best you can. Don't beat yourself up as you're doing a cracking job. Your child is loved and wanted 
There's loads of others, maybe you could post in SN? How about the CAB, they may know. A lot of local charities can help so it's worthwhile asking.
Fingers crossed!
I'm a LP too and we haven't had a holiday, not a proper one anyway (ds is 14). It's tough when you're doing the same things every day. Your daughter knows that you love her, she knows that she's wanted and that's worth more than anything else.
Try homestart.
Yes, you took it the wrong way
You said your DD is not confident in social situation (sorry if I'm paraphrasing it wrong) so it could be good for her to spend some tine with another trusted person, where maybe they could do something outside, if you are physically unable to do it. Don't know, just going by your OP. I did not presume that you do not do fun things with her.
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tried everywhere, they don't 'get' everything DCs got and always ALWAYS offer the completely wrong resources for her.
its like everything I say washes over their heads.
we're okay 'socially', its just that desolate feeling, also wishing I had a man in out lives, DC and I are a family but I always feel theres a missing piece of the jigsaw puzzle and that's a man. for many reasons!
its not that I cant bring DC up or anything, God knows no ones more devoted than me (you lot included of course 
), its the missing link.
I wish this feeling would go away and I accept its always going to be me and DC (who wants an ugly disabled woman anyway?) I realise that, I just get that 'man' loneliness sometimes too, we have friends but they all have 'normal' kids and the one who doeant has a DH who does most of the work with her DS anyway so she lives the life of riley!
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