I've NC because I'm so embarrassed that I'm posting on mumsnet again about my ex.
Left abusive ex 2+ years ago and have one DD aged 3.
Since we broke up life has been pretty unstable, a series of moves across country as well as inconsistency with my ex being in DD's life.
However, cut very long story short, the past maybe 4 months or so seem to have been going pretty well, DD has been seeing her dad on a regular basis (in a contact centre, plus occasional other visits for birthday, xmas etc) and ex and I have been communicating well.
This bit may out me - DD wanted dad at her birthday party, a few close friends expressed their concern given the history between us but after much deliberation I decided as seeing as things were going well it would be a good way to draw a line and be united for DD on her special day.
A week after DD's birthday: Ex and I have a minor disagreement about a career idea that he has had (constantly changing jobs/ideas) . There is no contact from ex for a few days (he usually will text to see how DD is or ring/Skype her) . I finally talk to him and he tells me he has decided its for the best that we don't speak any more and he'll just see DD in his time and basically keep everything separate (including no phone calls to DD any more).
I am still in a state of shock that he has done this again. Everything had been going well and DD seemed so happy. Now I've had her crying asking to speak to him and she's been asking 'can daddy take me swimming' etc (he had mentioned he could do this soon). What do I say to her? I'm heartbroken for her and so angry that her own dad could hurt her like this.
I have tried absolutely everything to try and get along with my ex for DD. Done no contact (he usually then disappears/uses drugs/alcohol), tried to be his friend (ends up thinking we can get back together), worked well as a team but with boundaries i.e. sorting xmas and birthday, nativity play etc. But nothing works! He says it's best for DD but now her life is unstable once again.
How can I go on the next 15 years having to deal with this man and comfort DD when he lets her down time after time? I'm at the end of my tether.
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losinmimarbles · 24/03/2014 23:03
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